Positive Parenting: Building Character in Young People


Philip St. Romaine

Publication Date:

May 2007

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..Chapter 4: Love in Action

Despite all our best efforts and fervid intentions, it's possible that some of the suggestions we've made in this book won't work. That's okay. That's the way life is. We all get to choose and, sometimes, kids choose things we wish they hadn't.

Still, kids who continually choose to break your rules and defy your authority might have a problem that could require professional help. Don't hesitate to seek help if that's the case in your family.

Also, problems that stem from drug or alcohol abuse are sometimes virtually impossible for parents to sort out and correct without the assistance of helping professionals, and the same goes for learning disorders and a host of emotional problems, including anxiety, depression, and other psychological issues.

It's a wise parent who recognizes the limits of his or her competence and turns to those who can help.

It's no failure on our part to be imperfect and limited. We are only human, after all.

But that's no excuse for not trying.

Clarifying the principles that help build character in young people is an important first step in effective parenting, but it's important to remember that none of them are effective unless they're applied in everyday life.

Good intentions may count for something, but not always as much as the people who intend them hope they do -- unless they're translated into meaningful action.

And while there are hundreds of creative ways to affirm our kids and teach them the responsibility they have for the choices they make in their lives, none of the ways mean a thing until they become a manifest part of the love and trust at the bottom of the parent-child relationship.

Why not begin today to make love and trust the basis of your relationship with your child? And why not begin today to make love and trust the basis of your child's relationship with you?

It's what we're here for. And it's what they're here for, too.

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