We're decision-making animals,
every one of us.
From the moment
we wake up and decide what kind of mood we're in to the final
choice we make whether or not to floss our teeth at night, we're
all making decisions, all the time.
We decide whether
to shoot hoops or watch TV after school (or watch hoops on TV),
and whether to have vanilla, chocolate, or Strawberry-Pickle
Parfait at the local 57 Flavors.
On the other
hand -- or foot (we decided to be different), we also make a
lot of decisions that don't even seem like decisions.
when mom tries to pawn off turnips as food. That isn't a decision
we spend a lot of time thinking about. Most of us just pass the
bowl as fast as we can.
or "no" (or "uh-huh" or "huh-huh")
on the spur of the moment works pretty well most of the time.
But big decisions need a little more attention. And choosing
about drugs and alcohol is as big as decisions ever get.
this pamphlet is all about.
In it, we'll
discuss how to figure out what's right for you in making choices
about drugs and alcohol.
talk about peer pressure and discuss how you can say "no"
-- if and when you need to -- in a way that gets heard and respected.
That way, you
won't have to be someone who says "yes" when you mean
"no," and spend the rest of your life in therapy, wondering
why no one understands you and waiting for your 50-minute
"hour" of therapy to be up.
..Peers & Pressures
The first thing
we'll talk about is why people use drugs and alcohol in the first
There are as
many different answers to that question as there are burgers
at McDonald's: about 16 bazillion -- and still counting.
drink or do drugs to relax or forget their problems or have fun
or fall asleep.
Others do it
because they think everybody else does -- and they're afraid
they'll look clueless or totally out of it if they don't.
But if you
peel away the first 16 bazillion layers of the onion away, you'll
find that most people get into drugs or drinking in the first
place because someone they know is into it.
The fancy word
for the process is peer pressure. It means that we feel pressure
(either from inside or outside ourselves) to be like other people.
isn't a bad thing. It plays a big role in determining who we
are and how we dress and talk and act.
It's a main
reason that kids in America dress and talk and act more or less
alike, instead of looking and acting and talking like people
in Lithuania or Katmandu.
pressure can cause problems, too. Because, sometimes, people
in groups act differently and do things they'd never do on their
we all lose at least some of our identity in a group. And the
normal controls we put on our behavior can crumble before the
need we all feel to fit in and be respected by others.
isn't always (or even usually) the obvious stuff they show in
TV commercials. ("Wanna try a joint? No? Wussamadda? Chicken?")
it's hard to even notice, much less resist.
But if you
want to pull your own strings in life, you need to be aware of
it and know how it works and learn how to make choices for yourself,
in spite of it.
..Truth or Consequences
why our society makes such a big deal out of drugs and alcohol
-- and spends so much time and money to talk you out of trying
It's not that
drugs and alcohol are bad and ducking them is good, although
a lot of people believe that.
Drugs are drugs.
Period. Alcohol is alcohol. They're not good or bad. They're
Think of it
this way: Drugs and alcohol are like dynamite -- it's not good
or bad, either.
Use a couple
of sticks to clear away a boulder that's blocking a road to a
jungle hospital, and it's good. Use it to blow up the hospital,
and it's bad.
Drugs are like
that. Some have real value, but any chemical that can change
the way you think and feel is something you need to consider
true because the effects of drugs and alcohol aren't external
(like dying your hair green on St. Patrick's Day), but internal,
and can cause real changes in the body and brain.
And even though
some drug effects feel cool for a while (or people wouldn't do
them), they always wear off.
Then the body
-- and-brain's owner -- is back at Square One, dealing with the
The same kind
of stuff that follows in the wake of every choice we make. (If
you choose chocolate, you can't have vanilla. Choose vanilla,
and you can't have Strawberry-Pickle Parfait. Duh!)
Drugs and alcohol
have consequences, too and some of them aren't cool, at all.
And it isn't
just hangovers or failing in school or getting arrested that
you need to consider -- although those are real consequences
that can affect the quality of your life for a long time.
There are other
consequences, too, and we're just beginning to understand some
of them -- like the changes in brain chemistry that can follow
periods of drug use.
fact is that all drugs change brain chemistry somehow -- or they
wouldn't work at all.
that powerful really ought to be treated with respect and taken
a lot more seriously than some people take the choice to drink
or do drugs.
..A, B, or C (Made E-Z)
Okay. So the
downside of drugs has nothing to do with good or bad and everything
to do with how they affect the quality of life -- and the consequences
they tend to leave behind.
it's smart to think about drinking and drugs before you start
bumping up against hard choices in the real world.
know what happens if you put off thinking about important stuff.
It keeps on
being important and you get more likely to do some dumb, spur-of-the-moment
thing (especially if your friends are doing it), than what's
best for you.
But how do
you decide what you really want? Try considering your
options at each of the five stages that go into every decision.
choose so fast that we don't realize just how detailed the process
is. But when you think about it, there really are five parts
to every decision:
- Identify the problem (Turnips! Yipes!)
- Describe possible solutions or alternatives (Feed
'em to the dog! Spit 'em out! Close your eyes and swallow...)
- Evaluate the ideas (The dog's outside! The napkin's
too small! Just get it over with...)
- Act out a plan (Play dead! Barf.
- Learn for the future (Find out beforehand
what's for dinner and play sick if necessary...)
you were that complicated, huh?
In case you
didn't notice, the first letter of each step spells out "IDEAL,"
and it is pretty much an ideal way to figure out what your options
are in any situation -- and predict possible consequences.
Yo, more turnips,
through, and if you come up with 16 bazillion and one reasons
for not trying drugs and alcohol, remember that there are almost
that many ways to say "no," should the need ever arise.
You can say:
- "Not tonight. I have to
- "No, thanks. I'm in training."
- "Nope, not for me!"
- "Hey! No way!"
- "Thanks, but no thanks."
- "Just leave me alone."
But of all
the ways anyone ever devised for saying "no" to drugs
and alcohol, we like one better than all the rest. We'll share
it with you, in case you ever want to try it out yourself.
Just say: "I'm
are, you know. You always have been.
The trick is keeping yourself
that way. But you're up to it, aren't you?